50+ Conversation Topics That Lead to Sex - Tested and Approved

If you’re feeling nervous about bringing up topics that can lead to sex and intimate conversations, try adding a bit of humor to your sexual communication tactics. Humor is one of the best ways to break the ice and make your date feel comfortable about opening up to you through dirty talk.

Here are a few ways to use humor in the conversation and spark up a lighthearted discussion:

• Tell her about a funny memory or sex story.
• Share an embarrassing memory you have that will make her laugh.
• Crack a funny and light-hearted sexual joke.
• Ask her to share any embarrassing stories or memories with you.
• Tell her about awkward sexual conversations you've had in the past.
  

After taking time to get to know her, it’s time to turn the heat up and start talking about more risky topics. Talking about taboo topics like sex toys or sex lives will not only help her open up to you more but will make moving on to the delicate topic of sex a much more natural transition. You can even consider playing sexy truth and dare over text!

Here are a few risky subjects you can bring up to spice up the conversation:

• Ask her if she has any tattoos or piercings.
• Share a travel story and ask her if she has any.
• Talk about risky memories like skinny dipping.
• Ask if she’s ever done anything out of the ordinary.
• Mention sexual topics like sexual experiences or sexual activity.

Sexual innuendos are a simple and fun way to lighten up the conversation and steer it towards the topic of sex. You don’t want to directly refer to sex, but you can mention or hint towards sex with a witty comment and sexual innuendo instead. This way, you can gauge your date’s reaction to see if she’s up for the conversation.

Here are a few examples of sexual innuendos you can use as conversation starters to talk about with your date:

• I’m definitely thirsty tonight.
• Yes, my favorite animal is definitely the beaver.
• That’s what she said.
• That’s what he said.

Asking your date questions will help you get to know her better while also steering the conversation toward spicier topics. You don’t have to ask questions directly related to sex to get the conversation moving in that direction either. A good relationship is about more than just sex and sex talk.

You can ask about flirty or risky topics like tattoos, past relationships, and more to turn the heat up in the conversation. Here are some questions to use as conversation starters on your next date:

• How old were you when you had your first drink?
• What was your first kiss like?
• What's the best sex you ever had?
• What’s the coolest place you ever traveled?
• Do you have any crazy travel stories?
• What’s the most trouble you got into in high school?
• Have you ever gone on a blind date?

Asking your date about her past experiences is an easy way to talk more about sex in a way that’s not awkward or too invasive. While you don’t want to spend the date talking about her exes or going into too much detail about her past relationships, you can talk about fun past experiences she’s had and enjoyed.

Here are a few things to ask your date about her past to turn up the heat in your conversation:

• Have you ever been kissed in a pool?
• What is one of your biggest fantasies?
• What are your thoughts on foreplay?
• How do you feel about kissing in the rain?
• Where’s the craziest place you’ve kissed someone?
• Have you ever kissed on the first date before?
• What’s your craziest memory from a date?

Now that your date is feeling more comfortable with you, it’s time to put the attention back on you. Ask your date how she would act in certain situations with you in the bedroom and on the date. This will get her visualizing the two of you together, and will better set the mood.

These are a few examples of how you can ask about situations between you two:

• What would you do if I leaned over and kissed you right now?
• Do you feel any sexual tension between us?
• What would you say if I asked you over to my place tonight?
• How would you act if I told you I like you?
• If I took you out for a dinner date, would you be smitten or hate how romantic it was?
• If I were to hold your hand while we walk, what would you think?