Tinder Hookup

When you're interested in hooking up, your first conversation is going to look a lot different than if you were aiming for casual dating, or a serious relationship. Much like our advice around pictures and bios, different rules apply here.

If the point is a hookup, you need to make sure the other person is on the same page the first time you talk to them, without making them feel uncomfortable. You can do this by asking some simple questions in your opening message, such as the classic, "what are you looking for on here?"

To sext or not to sext?

Meeting for a hookup requires a different kind of screening than meeting for a date. If the point of getting together is to get laid, it's fair to want to make sure you're a sexual fit before dedicating too much time.

This can mean covering the absolute basics, like STI talks and relationship status, etc. But it can also be helpful to figure out what the other person is into, and what they're interested in doing with you, to make sure the date is a good fit for both of you.

When you're hooking up, early texting often gets into a lot more sexual details that the typical chat with your Tinder matches.

Once you've covered the "what are you looking for" question mentioned above, you can try common sexting transition prompts such as, "what would you do if I was there right now?" This kind of flirting or sexting can help you find out if the other person is the right flavor of interesting for you - and can determine whether hooking up with them is a good idea.

For a variety of reasons — including privacy concerns — there are many people who aren't willing to exchange naughty photos. But if both of you are game, this can also be another way to start building anticipation for the night you're planning to share together.

Also, the further you get into sexting and sharing photos, the more likely you both are to follow through and meet up for your date.

Nobody likes a time waster, but if you're looking for a quick hookup, you especially don't need an on-again, off-again, texting buddy that's never going to come through to meet up IRL.

If they're flakey in the first conversation, let it go. Otherwise you risk getting stood up and wasting your night, when you could have spent your time with someone more interested in following through. A good way to know if by getting her phone number.

When it comes to the first date, are you cutting right to the chase or meeting in person, first?

While you might be eager to get the party started, remember that many women won't be willing to hook up with strangers they haven't met in public first.

To come up with a date idea that easily transitions into getting laid, try picking a location that's a short distance from one of your homes — walking distance is ideal. Is there somewhere you can easily grab a coffee or a cocktail? Quick dates are the way to go. You want the opportunity to meet on neutral ground, but don't want to get sucked into a long dinner or worse yet — a movie where you can't even talk.