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How to Talk to Girls on Tinder: The Ultimate Guide (2024)

If you're wondering how to talk to girls on Tinder, you've come to the right place. Keep reading to find out the best conversation starters to use to land yourself a date with a girl from the app.
How To Talk To Girls On Tinder

Popular dating apps like Tinder can be intimidating, especially when you’re up against so many other profiles on the app. While sending the first message and starting a conversation with a girl may be easy, it can be tough figuring out a way to talk to girls that actually works.


Fortunately, online dating doesn't have to be tough and you can take a few steps to keep the conversation flowing. Here is how to talk to girls on Tinder.

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Table of Contents

Here is the outline of the article, feel free to jump to the section that interests you the most.

  1. 1. Send the first message fast
  2. 2. Make your message stand out
  3. 3. Don’t be too eager
  4. 4. Be confident
  5. 5. Make it personal
  6. 6. Ask her intentional questions
  7. 7. Don’t ramble
  8. 8. Ask her out on a date
  9. FAQ
1 send the first message fast

1. Send the first message fast

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Start the conversation and send the first message. By doing this, you’ll show girls that you’re confident and not afraid to break the ice, which is often the hardest part about talking to girls.


Don’t wait around for girls to send the first message – this will make you look passive and uninterested. 

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2 make your message stand out

2. Make your message stand out

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Rather than starting your message off with a “Hi”, or, “How are you?” get creative with your text. Girls get a lot of messages on dating apps and are often pretty used to receiving boring messages. Sending a short and bland message will make it look like you couldn’t be bothered to come up with anything else and won't create a fluid conversation.


Make sure to put effort into creating good conversation with the right person. You can start off with a cute pickup line, a cheesy joke, or a comment that will make her laugh. 

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3 don’t be too eager

3. Don’t be too eager

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While you want to seem interested, you don’t want to come off as too eager or desperate on the dating app. There's a fine line between being interested and being way too eager. If a girl thinks you’re desperate, she’ll quickly lose interest and will most likely ghost you.


You also want to make yourself seem like a good catch and someone that brings value to the table, so don't be afraid to be confident in your approach.

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4 be confident

4. Be confident

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Girls love a guy who is confident and knows what he wants. Be forward but not too forward to keep her intrigued and eager to talk to you more. Use a pick up line, or open up with a joke to make her laugh.


Pick up lines can be cheesy, but when done right, they can help you land a first date. She’ll appreciate that you have a good sense of humor and confidence.

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5 make it personal

5. Make it personal

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When talking to a girl on Tinder, you’ll want to make it personal to ensure you get the next message. Mention something about her profile like a hobby or passion she’s doing in one of her photos to get the green light. This will show her you’re taking a genuine interest in her and have taken the time to look at her profile.


Ask her about places she's visited and take an interest in her future plans. You'll also want to use her name at least once to show her you’re not just copying and pasting messages to other Tinder matches, and that you're a real person and not a catfish.

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6 ask her intentional questions

6. Ask her intentional questions

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Show her you’re interested in getting to know her and can also keep a conversation going. If you reply with one or two-word answers, you could risk ending the conversation as she won’t have much to reply to. By asking genuine and intentional questions, show her you want to find out more about her beyond the surface.


Look at a girl's bio and Tinder pics and ask a few questions to show your interest level. Ask her about her hobbies or passions as people love to talk about what makes them happy. 

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7 don’t ramble

7. Don’t ramble

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Keep things short and easy to read – avoid rambling and using run-on sentences. If your messages are long and hard to read, she'll have trouble keeping up with you. She may lose interest in talking to you and stop responding, which is the whole point of online dating.


When you first start talking to a girl, keep your messages short to help land yourself a first date.

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8 ask her out on a date

8. Ask her out on a date

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Once you’ve spent some time getting to know each other, ask her out on a date. Start with a date that’s casual and easy like a walk or a coffee date. If you prefer, you can take things to text messaging by asking her for her number. Then, after a few texts, make your move and ask her out on a date.

Talking to girls on apps like Tinder doesn't have to be nerve-wracking. With these tips, you'll be a pro at talking to girls on Tinder and will be able to land yourself a date with your perfect match.

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faq

FAQ

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How do you start a conversation on Tinder?

Take time to look at a girl's profile to cater your opening line and first message to her. See what she likes and get to know what her hobbies are through her Tinder pictures, and use that in your first message to start a conversation.



How do you keep a conversation going on Tinder?

If you're having trouble keeping a conversation going on Tinder, don't panic. Ask your match questions about herself. People love talking about themselves and it's a great way to keep a conversation going.



What if my match stops responding?

When your match stops responding after you've asked questions and tried to keep the conversation going, give them some time. Don't rush anything and don't send too many texts. If you get no response, accept it and know that it's okay when someone isn't interested in you.

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Conclusion

In conclusion, learning how to talk to girls on Tinder is a skill that can greatly increase your chances of finding a meaningful connection. By following these tips and strategies, you can engage in conversations that are interesting, engaging, and respectful. Remember to be yourself, but also show genuine interest in your match and their interests.


Above all, always remember to be respectful and to never cross any boundaries or engage in inappropriate behavior. With these tips, you're now ready to start swiping and striking up conversations with confidence.

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Ben Bailey

Ben is one of the best Tinder Experts I've ever met and one of the few that cracked the algorithm of Tinder. Every week, Ben is publishing new articles on ROAST, helping 12M+ of people to get more matches, dates, and find the one!

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