Tinder: who messages first?

It clearly does. For many reasons.

5 reasons to send the first message on Tinder:

• It should be clear, but the person who sends a message first on tinder has the upper hand. It is your rhythm!

  
  

• Sending messages is not hard if you know what to say in them and how to approach people – for example, by sending a nice compliment or asking open questions that invite responses. But it takes more time than just swiping right or left every day and waiting for matches!

  
  

• You're already taking the initiative by messaging someone on Tinder instead of relying solely on one's luck with swipes; your success rate will increase tremendously when you take this further step.

  
  

• You decide your timing, it impacts your ELO.

  
  

• You will easily stand out from other users. 63% of male users message their matches within 5 minutes, compared to only 18% of female match users.

One thing’s for sure: your profile has a powerful effect on the first conversation — which in turn has a powerful effect on the rest of your encounter with this person. It cannot be stressed enough: your profile is one of the most important things to get right. ROAST can set you up with a profile that magnifies your best qualities, but also makes you look really attractive and desirable to anyone. You want to look like you’re winning, and ROAST can make you look that way. Try it today.

Guys are often intimidated to reach out because they're worried about rejection, so their first instinct is to wait for girls to do the first move!

They will tell themselves they are lazy, or don't know what to say, when they are in fact scared of not getting any answer in return.

Many are actually lazy, and do not come on Tinder often enough: they get a surge and swipe furiously for hours. Then do not come and engage conversation.

Let's face it, I've been there. You are not getting any matches, and are working hard for that. You swipe and swipe without being that selective.

And here you go, you get some connections. Now you get a second look, and the girl is not really your type. Or you do not find inspiration. And you do it. You procrastinate.

Seconds become minutes and minutes hours. And your match is still waiting.

This is very common! Break this curse.

It’s hurting you more than you know. The algorithm actually favors those who interact more and who swipe selectively. Your visibility will actually increase if you’re more proactive! For more Tinder secrets, ask ROAST for advice on how to set up your profile and pictures.

Swipe with caution, and engage fast!

Several things are at play here.

First thing, this may be because they have been socialised to believe their gender should play hard-to-get in dating, or for a whole host of other reasons (consciously and/or unconsciously). The old courtship thing per-say. And this goes both ways

According to Tinder, only 1.4% of women think that they should send the first message. This is compared to 9.8% of men who think the same. ... Perhaps that's why 25% more women prefer a man to message them first than their male counterparts according to data from Tinder, not just because of women's shyness, but also because women are more likely to be ignored by men for sending the first message than vice versa.

The second thing is the "fear" factor, and fact that girls are pickier: when you're matched with someone on Tinder, it's usually not an instantaneous decision like swiping right or left. They see your profile picture and read through some of your bio before deciding if they want to strike up conversation! When this actually happens, most people get excited about potentially meeting; but then they immediately think about how anxious & "what if?" thoughts will follow them until after the first message has gone out.

Also, don't forget that girls get a lot more matches than guys on Tinder! They do start less conversations, but this is at play too. Waiting for guys to start is a way of filtering the motivated ones from the sort of lazy.

But girls! This doesn't mean that you should never message a guy first; if you think he's attractive and worth the risk then send him a chat. The worst thing that can happen is for him not to reply - at least it shows your interest in them! If he does reply back then wow: someone who likes the idea of chatting with you on Tinder before meeting up IRL.

No deep secret. What helps you talk fast to someone? Material.

Your profile needs to be interesting, with photos inviting to a reaction:

• Interesting backgrounds.
• Activities you master.
• Something funny to bounce on. Warning: dont be a clown.
• A special and well-known event you attended.

Posing on this item is likely to get people to message you first!

Also, use one of the most convenient possibility: your bio. Thats the thing you should look at to get the perfect conversation opener.

The same way, make it easy for girls to have something to tell you.

Use catchy lines to pick their attention.

Offer some kind of game, some challenge.

It’s easy to listen to this generic advice, but how can you be sure you’re pulling it off correctly? You can be sure by asking ROAST. ROAST will write you a profile that definitely works, and they’ll even help you improve your pictures. Try ROAST today.

This will considerably increase the amount of people talking to you first.

We already talked about that in our article about Tinder ELO. Don't wait.

Playing hard to get, trying to hideyour interest is very counter productive on Tinder.

Just a reminder: if you're not doing anything on Tinder, chances are that other people aren't either. You'll never be able to keep up with them because they will always have something new to offer while you don't.

Remember that your profile is like the real first message. If you know that it’s great, you can be more confident in the first message that you send — which is bound to make it more successful. Let ROAST build you a profile so you can achieve that success.

Several special cases. To keep talking about Tinder, we have to mention the new super like! You can now simply message before match with that.

It's a great way for women to be able to get the ball rolling and start chatting without having to wait around.

From our experiments, it is significantly increasing the match rate, when you use our good opening lines!

Tinder is not the only app. On Bumble the question is answered simply: girls have to message you within the first 24hrs. Given what we said, it has big draw backs. We listed reasons why girls would not message first.

Forcing them could seem like a good thing, but it can however fireback with boring conversations.

In my view more interesting: Hinge.

Since you can add a message to your like, do it. Something contextual based on the other person's pictures.

It will hit two birds with one stone:

• You wont have to find the perfect line to start the conversation.
• It is very likely to increase your match rate if you are creative!

Now that you mostly got the idea that it is good most of the time to message first, what do you say

We will just give general tips, that should help!

• Avoid close end questions.
• Find something attractive, funny, wit in the pictures.
• Spike emotions!
• If you feel like a scientist, AB test openers!