How to Ask a Girl Out on Bumble: Everything You Need To Know

Before you jump right in and ask her out on a date, start a conversation with her first.

A girl will be more open to saying yes to a date if she’s talked to you for a bit beforehand. Make her feel comfortable and show her you’re not afraid to keep the conversation going and spend the time talking to her.

You don’t want to have a boring, surface-level conversation so avoid messages like “Hey” and “What’s up?” and make it a bit more interesting by showing her you have a fun messaging style.

When you’re talking to a girl, you should always make an effort to get to know her. Ask her questions about her life, hobbies, interests — and anything else she might want to talk about. She’ll be flattered that you’re taking an interest in her and aren’t just there to talk about yourself.

Plus, the more you get to know about your match on the dating site, the better you can plan a date to go somewhere or do something she likes off app.

Be clear about your intentions and what you’re looking for from your match. Women love confident men and your match will appreciate that you’re being confident in asking her out.

Instead of asking, “Want to grab a drink?” or “Want to get a bite to eat?” set a plan and be specific. The more confident you are, the better chance you have of her saying yes.

You can also make the first move and ask her for her phone number so you can text back and forth and show her your intentions.

When planning the date, make sure you put effort into what you’ll be doing with your date. Your date will know when you put in the effort to plan a nice date for them, and they’ll be flattered that you took the time to do something for them.

Tailor your date ideas to your match’s interests — if you got to know her, you’ll know of a few interests and likes of hers that you can use to plan the perfect date.

Sometimes, women may feel uneasy and unsure about going on a date with a total stranger — which is perfectly understandable. Ease her worries by linking your Facebook or Instagram to your profile so she can vet you through your photos, posts, and friends.

If she wants, you can offer to schedule a call or even a video chat if it makes her feel more comfortable about going on a date with you. Your match won’t have to worry about being a catfish once she sees you on a video call and you'll break the ice before actually meeting in person.

Read through your conversation with your match on the dating app to get date ideas.

You can make an inside joke about a past comment, and look through what your match has said to be able to plan a date idea she’ll love. Maybe she told you about her love of music or trying new restaurants, or maybe she told you she spends her free time out in nature.

You can use past conversations to help you plan a personal date that’s tailored to her interest, and that shows her you listen to her and are serious about going on a date in real life. 

Sometimes, girls like to have a bit of a choice when it comes to the first date, even if they don’t feel comfortable being the one to ask.

Lay out a few potential fun date ideas and give her the option to choose. Maybe she’ll add an idea or two or even make a suggestion herself.

When you offer a few options, you give her agency and choice, which your match will appreciate. 

Don’t over plan or overcomplicate it. Keep things simple and when planning the date, don’t pack too many ideas into one date. The most important thing about your date is that you’ll have time to get to know each other.

Choose somewhere where you can have a conversation and keep things casual but fun. Your date will love that you’re easygoing and will feel a lot more comfortable on a date that is relaxed and laid back.