My Bumble Match disappeared, what happened and why (2023 Edition)

The simplest answer is often the right one — if someone disappears from your Bumble match queue, it could be thanks to a bug. The good news is that bugs can be a temporary glitch and often resolve themselves, so just try the tech support classic — turn it off and on again. Make sure you fully close out of the app and launch it again, then check to see if your match is back.

If restarting the app doesn't do the trick, don't lose hope. Before you decide there's more going on than a simple Bumble glitch give it a full 24 hours and another restart. If your match is still gone, it's time to start exploring other possibilities.

Unlike some of the other dating apps, Bumble matches come with a time limit. Once you've swiped right on Bumble, theres a 24 hour window for someone to make the first move. If it's a male/female match, the woman needs to make the first move. And once a message is sent, a reply also needs to come within 24 hours. There is a way to give yourself more time to think of a witty reply by using Bumble Extend Match.

If you've already run out of time, there's good news! Bumble has a feature called Bumble Rematch that allows you a second shot at scoring that date.

Basically, Bumble is built to make sure that some matches will disappear — urging users to keep the momentum going and not let matches simply sit ignored for ages, as can happen in Tinder or other apps.

If this possibility is stressing you out, you can spring for Bumble boost. As a Bumble boost subscriber, you'll have access to a premium Bumble feature that allows you to extend the time a match has to send a message or reply, which can take some pressure of that ticking clock.

This is the possibility you're likely dreading, but when a match disappears, it's always possible that your match decided it wasn't a good fit after all. As much as it stings, try not to take it personally. There are dozens of reasons Bumble users might decide to unmatch with someone, and most of them have nothing to do with you. At worst, consider it a swipe left... after the fact.

It's also possible they accidentally unmatched you — and while that's frustrating, it's one more possibility that shouldn't be taken personally.

If you notice your Bumble match list coming up short, one of the possibilities for why matches disappeared is that you'd been matched with a now-deleted user. This could be because they ran afoul of Bumble's community guidelines or because they choose to delete their account. From the outside looking in, there's no way to tell the difference. A deleted member is simply going to disappear from your match list — whether they left by choice or were booted from the app.

If your bumble match deleted their account by choice, it could be because they got serious with another person, because something came up in their personal life that requires all of their attention, or that they've simply decided against dating for now.

Whatever the reason for the deleted account, there's nothing you can do from your end to get another user's deleted account back.

Unfortunately, dating apps are in a constant battle with bots and other kinds of fake profiles. Part of this battle means that fake profiles get removed from the app as soon as they're spotted, and that means getting pulled from your match list, too.

Did a match seem too good to be true? Then it's possible it was. Especially if you hadn't started a conversation yet, there's a good chance you simply hadn't had time to discover the red flags yet. Consider it a dodged bullet and move on to the next user in your list — spending your extra energy sending them an amazing first message.

The short answer? Probably not. Regardless of the reason that your match disappeared, there's usually no way to undo the problem. (Unless it was a glitch that resolved itself.) Your best course of action is to spend your time and energy focusing on your other matches and just move on. However, if you've ever accidentally swiped left on someone you can get them back with Bumble Backtrack.

If you're really desperate to get someone back, there's no harm in reaching out to Bumble support. There's likely nothing they can do to help, but there's no harm in asking and it might help put your mind at ease.

It's also possible that you'll simply see your lost match back in your swipe queue someday. That could be because they started a new account or because now and then Bumble actually recycles people you've already swiped on. And if you and your lost match are on multiple dating apps like many people, it's also possible you'll land on them again somewhere else.

Don't want to lose your Bumble matches? Be sure to stay match worthy! Send a charming first message that makes it clear you've read their profile, and depending on who made the first move, make sure you're engaging with any information they've already sent you. Basically, you want to keep their attention by having a great conversation. If you look like you're phoning it in, there's a chance the other person could decide their time is better spent elsewhere.

Another strategy is to make sure to take matches off the app as soon as possible. Once you start talking to someone, try to get the girl's number quickly — or at least their Instagram handle — basically any social account or messaging app that will be more reliable than the Bumble chat.