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### #1: Your most bizarre pet peeve` `

Here's where you find out whether they load toilet paper from the front or from the back! Sharing a ridiculous fact or exploring pet peeves is a great way to get to know someone, without relying on a personal question.

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### #2: Your favorite movie` `

A classic question for a reason, questions like this help get the ball rolling in a conversation. It can also easily lead to planning a movie date where you take turns sharing your favorite movies.

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### #3: Your perfect date night` `

A perfect topic for the early stages of a relationship, make a mental note of their answer to help you figure out date ideas. Once you know someone's favorite restaurant you'll be on your way to planning a great first date.

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### #4: How you would spend your three wishes` `

Is someone selfish or altruistic? Topics like this lead people to share the inner workings of their minds in a way that a direct question might never reveal. And the follow-up questions to this topic will lead to endless things to talk about.

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### #5: What superpower you would choose` `

Surely you've heard by now; flight is a good answer, and invisibility is a bad one. But what other superpowers can you think of? The answer to this question can offer great insight.

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### #6: Your worst fear` `

If the worst thing you can imagine is running into a shark, Jaws style, this might be a good topic. If your worst fear is something heavier, then you might want to save this one for later in the relationship.

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### #6: Your dream job` `

Sure, most of us dream of retirement, not work. But finding out about someone's dream job is a great way to figure out if you're on the same page about likes and dislikes in life. And that will be important if you're hoping to build a healthy relationship.

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### #7: Your dream destination` `

Do you want to sit on a beach, sipping cocktails, or explore the cultural center of an ancient city? Your dream vacation says a lot about you, and how you want to spend your free time.

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### #8: Your favorite song` `

The days of mix tapes might be long gone, but you can still share your favourite song with a YouTube link or Spotify playlist. Finding out someone's musical taste (or even whether they play musical instruments themselves) will help you get to know your crush.

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### #9: Favorite (or least favorite) fictional characters` `

Whether it's from a favorite tv show, movie, or book, everyone has a fictional world they feel strongly about.

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### #10: Their favorite pizza order` `

It's best to find out early whether they're into pineapple on pizza — because we all know this is a major relationship dealbreaker. If you're [not getting dates on Tinder](https://roast.dating/blog/tinder-no-dates), its probably because you like pineapple on your pizza.

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### #11: Cat person or dog person?` `

Another potential dealbreaker, whether because of preferences or allergies, it's helpful to figure out what kind of pets someone is into. And hey, this is where you find out if they opt for another interesting species, like pet rats or a bearded dragon.

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### #12: The immature thing that always makes them laugh` `

Want to make your crush laugh? Figure out how their funny bone works. This can also be a chance to snuggle up and share TikTok favorites as a mellow date idea.

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### #13: Their biggest turn off` `

Want to make sure you don't blow it? Gather information (like the pet peeves topic above) to make sure you make a good first impression.

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### #14: The most romantic thing they can think of` `

If the most important thing to your crush is romance, then this is information you'll want to have. Whether you're trying to build fond memories, or just have a successful first date, these are the conversation starters that provide added value.

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### #15: Their absolute worst date ever` `

This is one of the most fun topics you can bring up. While you want to make sure not to go too negative (no one likes ex-bashing) if you've got stories about nightmare guests to your home, or the date you wish you hadn't given your address, you've probably got a crowd-pleasing story.

The subjects you need to talk about

things to talk about with your crush

Efficient ideas of things to talk about with your crush

ideas  things to talk about with your crush

interesting topics to discuss

If you need interesting things to discuss with your crush, here are [some ideas](https://roast.dating/blog/ideas-things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush).

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### Fictional characters` `

Which fictional character would you invite to dinner? Which one would you want to rescue you if you were kidnapped? Allow the world of fiction to inform your early conversations, and you'll stay in safer territory than digging deeply into your real lives.

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### A perfect date night` `

Not only is this a great view into their personality, but you can take notes for the next time you're planning a date of your own. They'll be impressed that you remembered the things they care about.

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### Fashion` `

Everyone has opinions about fashion. From their personal fashion sense to that of celebrities or even their coworkers. Bring up fashion and get ready to hear some strong opinions. Try asking about the best and worst thing they've ever seen on the red carpet!

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### How they spend their free time` `

It sounds straightforward at first, but you never know what you'll find out. Is your crush a kind soul who works at a soup kitchen, or do they have unusual hobbies you've never even heard of? Better ask them now, because it's good to know before you start spending your free time together.

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### Favorite movies` `

Everyone has a favorite movie, and most people are eager to tell you about it. You can also change things up by asking what movie a person has watched the most times — which is often different from their favorite movies, and there's generally a story behind that difference.

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### Favorite TV shows` `

More of a TV person than a movie person? No problem! TV offers just as many conversation starters. And if you're chatting in person, see if they can do an impression of their favorite TV personality.

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### Pet peeves` `

Pineapple on pizza? Leaving the cap off the toothpaste? You never know what's going to get under someone's skin, but everyone has at least something. (And you'll learn what to avoid in the future.)

Interesting topics to discuss

unusual topics to discuss

Like to take the road less traveled? Try some of these unusual topics to shake things up a little, each one provides endless things to discuss.

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### Alien invasion` `

You see the great big flying saucer in the sky — now what? Do you take up arms against them? Create a sign welcoming our new alien overlords? The possibilities are endless. Not only can this create a lively conversation, but your crush's answers to questions like this will help you learn a lot about them.

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### Debate the most interesting species` `

From mantis shrimp vision to banana slug anatomy, if you want to get weird — here's your topic of choice. The great thing about a conversation starter like this is you can easily keep the conversation light, or go in more serious directions, depending on the vibe you get as the conversation develops.

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### Three wishes` `

Did you know there were whole discussion forums dedicated to coming up with the perfect three wishes — all while avoiding a wish backfire? Now you do!

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## Safe starter conversations

If you want to play it safe, try one of these topics to talk about.

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### Upcoming holidays` `

There's a holiday around every corner, so ask what their plans are. From camping over long weekends to spending winter nights with family, talking about the holidays will give you a glimpse into someone's personal life, without sounding like an overly personal question.

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### Pets` `

Are they a dog person or a cat person? It might sound simple, but people take their pets *very* seriously. You can also ask about childhood pets or their dream pet for the future. Pot-bellied pig anyone?

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### The best compliment they've ever received` `

Whatever they say, take notes — you're about to learn what's important to them, and get an idea of what kind of compliments you can give in the future.

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### Your daily routine` `

Another seemingly basic topic, but full of opportunities to learn about your crush. Are they a coffee person or do they prefer tea? Ask your crush if they're an early bird or a night owl? Do they work out? Talking about your daily routines is a great way to learn a lot about a person, and fast.

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### The funniest joke they've ever heard` `

Bring on the dad jokes! Often, jokes meant for children are the best place to start. Think of the kinds of jokes you'd find on a popsicle stick — the cheesier the better!

Unusual topics to discuss

Things to talk about with your crush

the art of the followup message

No matter how well a first date goes, everyone feels a little insecure until they know if the other person is on the same page.

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One of the best ways to cap off a successful first date is by sending the right text message. That way you can put each other's minds at ease, knowing that there's mutual interest and this might be the beginning of a budding relationship.

The art of the follow-up message

when should you text

The timing of the first date follow-up text is hotly debated — but ultimately, you need to trust your gut. Don't worry about [who messages first](https://roast.dating/blog/who-messages-first), just trust your instinct.

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If the date went so well that you've got a spring in your step all the way home, and maybe you're even whistling a happy tune, then texting right away to say, "Hope you got home safely!" might be a good fit.

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In most cases, you're better off waiting until the next day.

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Remember that it's more important to trust your gut and do what feels natural than to fall into the trap of playing games. There's no perfect amount of time to wait before sending text messages, and if the other person feels the same way the timing won't matter very much. Just don't send "hey", people never know [how to respond to hey](https://roast.dating/blog/how-to-respond-to-hey).

When should you text?

what should you text

Generally speaking, being honest is the way to go.

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If you find yourself thinking about what a great date you had, say so, "Just thinking about all the fun we had last night — I'd love to do it again sometime!"

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Another good bet is to remember what your date talked about and start text conversations about your common interests.

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You could even follow it up with just a simple [good morning text](https://roast.dating/blog/good-morning-text-crush).

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Texting after a first date is similar to sending a first message on dating apps: it's important to show that you're paying attention. An initial text that references something you talked about is always going to be more effective at keeping the conversation flowing than following just strictly following rules from a supposed relationship expert. Just don't go the sad route and do some [dry texting](https://roast.dating/blog/dry-texting).

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Need more ideas about what to say? Here are some text ideas for [after you've gotten the girl's number](https://roast.dating/blog/how-to-text-girl-after-number):

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##### Build anticipation` `

"I wasn't kidding when I promised to cook for you, are you free this weekend?"

"I know it's a month away, but would you like to attend \[X event\] with me?"

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##### Write a fake Yelp review` `

"Best date. 5/5 stars. Would recommend."

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##### Propose another date idea` `

"Want to check out that retro arcade we talked about?

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##### Texting just to talk` `

"Hey, I was just thinking of you. How's your day going?

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##### Remind them of an inside joke` `

"I'm still laughing about that impression you did. I look forward to seeing it again!"

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##### Ask thoughtful questions` `

"Your story is so interesting, I'd love to hear more about your time in \[X\]."

"I could have talked all night. I want to hear more about your job."

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##### Show your sense of humor` `

"How many hours was I supposed to wait before texting? Am I doing this wrong?

"Last night went so well we should start our own dating podcast."

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##### Make it clear you're interested` `

"Did that date happen or did I just wake up from the best dream?"

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##### Propose a virtual date` `

"I know you've got a busy schedule — maybe we can facetime or Netflix party before the next time we synch up?

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##### Send a GIF or a meme` `

Feeling lost for words? Use a funny GIF or a meme related to something you talked about to help start a conversation.

What should you text?

what to text after first date 

What To Text After First Date 

text after first date examples

why ask for her number

If the goal is to move off the apps and into real life, getting her phone number is a good first step.

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When you're exchanging Tinder messages there's no forgetting that this is online dating. Once you're exchanging text messages, it feels more like messaging with a friend or crush. This means a conversation is more likely to continue, even if a single message falls flat. When you're still messaging in the app, it's too easy to simply drop a conversation.

Why ask for her number?

whats the best way to get her number

Okay, so you know you need to get her number. How should you do it?

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### Timing is everything` `

You don't want your very first move after you've made a match to be trying to get her number. She'll likely run the other way if you come on that strong. You need to play it cool and establish mutual interest before taking things to the next level.

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While it might be frustrating to wait, your chances will increase once you've shown that it's nice talking to you.

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### Be honest` `

Sure, you could try using a smooth line on her, but honesty is usually the best policy. Here are some examples of what that could look like:

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"I always forget to open my Tinder app and I'd hate to miss a message from you. Can we switch to text?"

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"This app can be a little buggy and I don't always get notifications, can I get your number so we can text?"

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### Use a joke` `

If you've got a good sense of humor, you can use it to your advantage here. Show your fun and playful side when you ask for her number. Need an example? Try something like,

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"My contacts are lonely without your number."

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"Can I get your phone number? My dog wants to call you. (He's terrible at texting.)"

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"I can't find my phone number, can I borrow yours?"

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The point of this approach isn't to trick her with a smooth line, but to use the way that you ask to remind her that chatting with you is fun and give a preview of what to expect when you're texting. If humor isn't your best skill, you can use a funny meme to help you out.

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### Show that you're genuinely interested` `

Moving things from Tinder to text can be a way to show that you want more than a fun conversation, you want to [take her on a date](https://roast.dating/blog/ask-girl-out-tinder)! And it can be easier to plan a date — with all the back and forth that includes — when you're texting. Not to mention it's helpful to confirm a date via text (or, as a last resort, give a heads up if you're running late.)

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The fact is, the chat feature in dating apps isn't very useful for timely messages. So switching to text is ideal if you're going to meet up.

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### Use your phone the old fashioned way` `

Lots of us have forgotten what phones used to be for — making phone calls! But why not try something old-fashioned and suggest the two of you talk on the phone. It can help to get to know someone to actually hear their voice, and it can also help build trust and connection before meeting up in person. So let her know you're interested in calling her to talk and see what she has to say. Just make sure you have some [ideas of things to talk about](https://roast.dating/blog/ideas-things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush) before you call!

What's the best way to get her number?

what if she says no

It's important to show that you can take no for an answer. In fact, that's a trait that a lot of girls are looking for on dating apps. So if you throw a tantrum or get aggressive when she says no, you've blown it. Guys that throw tantrums don't pass the [Shit Test](https://roast.dating/blog/women-shit-test) and won't get dates!

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If the conversation is going well and it seems like she's into you, try asking for the reason. There might be a way to solve the problem. For example, using a google voice number, or another messaging app if she's worried about privacy.

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But ultimately, you'll need to take no for an answer rather than be pushy. And you'll probably win points by taking no gracefully.

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Once you've been a gentleman about not getting her number, ask if she'd still like to get together and try to make a date. The way you've handled this interaction should have built trust that will help get you more dates.

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If she doesn't want to give you her number or go on a date, then this connection just wasn't meant to be.

What if she says no?

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Get a woman's phone number on Tinder

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when to ask for her number

There are a lot of different theories about whether you should keep your chats with Tinder matches in the app, or whether you should [get the girl's number](https://roast.dating/blog/tinder-phone-number) and take the conversation to text.

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Switching to text can feel like too big of a commitment for some girls — because they can't simply block or unmatch you if things don't go well.

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But there are benefits, too. For one, it's easier for people to keep track of conversations they care about all in one place, rather than having to check whatever dating site they're using.

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With this in mind, you may want to ask for her number. Just remember, not everyone will be comfortable with that — so read our advice below about taking no for an answer and don't give up if you need to keep your conversation in the app.

When to ask for her number

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### Get the timing right` `

Online dating can be a game of timing. You need to wait until she's ready before proposing a date, without waiting so long that the spark is lost.

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How do you do that?

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You need to start by [having a good conversation](https://roast.dating/blog/ideas-things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush). Before you can suggest a date, you need to sound like someone she'll actually wanna meet. Once you've built a rapport, then you can float the idea of a date.

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Also — timing doesn't just apply to asking for the date, it applies to scheduling, too. You don't want to suggest a date too far in advance, or it becomes easy to lose interest or get distracted by something else. Ideally, suggest a date that will happen within the next few days. At the longest, suggest a date for the next week.

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### Keep it simple` `

You don't want to risk scaring her off, so that means the first date should feel safe and easy. Simply suggesting that you grab coffee can be a great place to start. Just make sure it's not so open-ended that it never happens.

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Once she agrees to the idea, follow up by asking when she usually has free time, like meeting her when she's on a break from work.

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### Be specific` `

This might feel tricky to balance with keeping it simple — but the two tips actually work very well together.

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Once you know her general schedule — so that you can suggest a date that works well for her — you can then suggest a specific date that will be easy to say yes to.

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For example, "How about meeting for happy hour tomorrow when you get off work? I know a great bar in the same neighborhood as your office."

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Get the idea? It's still simple because she can meet right after work without making a separate trip, but it's specific because you're naming a time and a place.

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When you've got these two elements in your favor, it's much easier for her to say yes.

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### Pay attention to what she says` `

You can't cut-and-paste your Tinder messages, and you can't cut-and-paste your date requests.

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There's no reason for her to say "yes" if you haven't engaged with anything she's said on her profile, or in her messages to you.

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There's no way to shortcut this part — you need to pay attention! Use what she's said in her bio, what her photos show, and elements from your first few messages to craft a date request that aligns with her interests.

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For example:

* If she's said she doesn't drink, don't suggest a bar
* If she says she loves animals, consider a cat cafe — or something similar — as a first date idea
* If she says she works nights, don't suggest an evening activity

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Get the idea?

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Do your best to have a meaningful conversation after you've matched, so you can make a real connection and suggest a date that will be a good fit for both of you.

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### Follow up — but don't nag` `

When you're chatting with a girl on Tinder, you're competing with lots of other guys. And sometimes, one of those guys is going to beat you to landing a date. But remember, dates on Tinder come and go, so if you make a good impression and don't ruin your chances, it's always possible she'll come back around later.

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That means that if a conversation goes cold, it's okay to check in. It can be helpful to stay front of mind because you never know when she'll be up for a date, and seeing you pop on on the screen at the right time might be all it takes.

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But if you nag, beg, or become aggressive, that's a sure fire way to get yourself blocked, rather than getting what you want.

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[Your follow ups](https://roast.dating/blog/things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush) should be light hearted and playful. Don't get on her case for not answering her sooner. A guilt trip will get you ignored. Instead, send a note that's easy to answer. Ask a question, tell a joke, or share something about yourself.

How to ask a girl out on Tinder

what to do if she says no when you ask her out

We get it, no one likes hearing no. But handling rejection well can actually get you a date!

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If she says no for a particular reason, be understanding. Don't give her a hard time or complain. Instead, suggest a real solution to the problem. Remember, you want to make it as easy as possible for her to say yes.

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For example, if she says no to a date offer, or cancels an existing date, because a big work project has come up and she's feeling stressed, suggest something that can help with that.

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For example:

> "Work stress is the worst! I'd still love to meet up with you and I'd love to help reduce your stress levels if I can. How about we meet up for coffee before you go into the office. Just a quick 10 minute hang to get you caffeinated for your long day. I promise to make you smile and get your day started on the right foot."

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Often, if you acknowledge the problem she's told you about and offer to help, that will make a yes easy again. Remember, don't sound disappointed or blame her for the change of plan. Show how easy going you are and that you can roll with whatever comes up.

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**Seriously, take "no" for an answer**

Nothing makes a 'no for now' into a 'no forever' like being a jerk about it.

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Sometimes it's simply the wrong time for a date but if you're cool about it, you'll land a date with her later on. There's absolutely no reason to burn your bridges by freaking out, even if you're frustrated. Telling her off won't gain anything, and it will make sure you never get a date with her in the future.

What to do if she says no when you ask her out

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Tinder: How to ask a girl out in 2023

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what is a shit test

The [shit test](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shit%20test) is a woman's screening for how valuable you are compared to her. It’s a test of whether your actions are congruent with what you have promised her.

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And in literal terms, the SHIT test is a test to determine how shit of a person someone is. The more full of shit you are, the less desirable you are for the female.

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If you pass shit tests, then she'll think that makes you more valuable, which means the two of you will stay attracted for long!

What Is a Shit Test?

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A shit test is based on the adage ‘Action speaks louder than words.’

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As mentioned earlier, females test men to see if their actions align with their promises. They try to determine whether you are genuinely good or just trying to get in her pants.

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If you fail the test, [you won’t hear from her again](https://roast.dating/blog/best-ghosting-responses). If you pass shit tests, the woman is all yours!

Why Do Females Do Shit Tests?

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Most men think that shit test is disrespectful and will take it as an insult. However, that’s the last thing that they should do.

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For ages, women have been testing men to determine the best partner. And this evolutionary trait continues today.

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And, in fact, it is needed the most now in the times of right swipes, hookups, and one-night stands. Women still typically look for a long-term commitment, and shit tests can help them [find a secure, stable match](https://roast.dating/blog/ideas-things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush).

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“You’re a piece of shit” is disrespect,

“Sorry, but we are not compatible” is not.

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Throwing a glass at your face when things are not working out is disrespectful.

Talking things out and agreeing to disagree is not.

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UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENCE.

What Is the Difference Between Shit Test and Disrespect?

what will she shit test you for

So, now that you have understood what shit test is and why women use it and how to identify whether she is testing you or not, let’s have a look at what parameters she’ll test you on.

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### **Fitness**` `

When we talk about fitness, we are not saying that women only look for guys with six-pack abs or who can beat Usain Bolt in a sprint. No!

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In the shit test, the fitness criteria test how fit (comfortable) you are in your own skin. Men who are not conscious about their bodies are seen as confident, bold people. And women seek such guys.

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To test your fitness, a woman may throw provocative statements at you like,

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“You’re short!”

“Oh, but you wear glasses.”

“You are not good-looking/hot enough for me.”

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Don’t get provoked. Rather be confident that how you look shouldn’t matter. Hit them with the classic “Beauty lies on the inside.”

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### **Compliance**` `

Some men agree with whatever a woman says just to improve their chances of sleeping with her. In the shit test, women see whether men will carry out tasks not usually associated with them.

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For instance, a woman may ask to hold her purse in a public place or ask to wear some bizarre clothing combination on a date. To prove that they are the “Nice guy,” some men will actually do such tasks.

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But, sorry, that’s not how it works.

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### **Confidence**` `

As stated earlier, women seek confident men. So, in shit test, they will put you in situations where your confidence is tested. For example, the girl may ask you to take her to a concert where there are hundreds of people, or say no when you [ask for her number](https://roast.dating/blog/tinder-phone-number).

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Similarly, she might ask you to order on her behalf at the restaurant to see how comfortable and confident are you.

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Even if you are not confident, don’t let it show on your face to pass shit tests.

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### **Finance**` `

Finance is an important aspect of a long-term relationship. To check how shit of a person you are when it comes to financing, a woman will have multiple tricks up her sleeve.

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“I want the new iPhone 13 Pro Max.”

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“Let’s go on a mini-vacation.”

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“Let’s eat out today.”

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“Can we upgrade our Netflix subscription?” are some sentences that will be thrown at you to check how you handle your finances.

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Don’t buckle and make unnecessary spendings. A woman looks for a man who understands the importance of handling finances properly.

What Will She Shit Test You For?

are shit tests good for you

Yes, it is a game! She is playing with her cards, which means the game is on.

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It helps her weed out low-value men from high-value men. And if you pass, it [brings the both of you closer](https://roast.dating/blog/signs-she-wants-you-to-make-a-move).

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The worst thing you want in an interaction is to be ignored or dis-considered. The WORST.

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Learn how to look at the positive side of things, to get the most out of them!

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If you want to spice up the conversation, I would recommend you to check [this article](https://roast.dating/blog/things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush).

Are Shit Tests Good for You?

how to pass a shit test

Passing the shit test is not rocket science. Here are some tips and tricks that can help you pass the shit test.

* Misinterpret what she is talking about

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Be clueless. Ask her to reiterate what she was saying. “I’m sorry, what did you say?” It should be your go-to line.

* Ignore her talks

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Remember, “Ignorance is bliss.” Don’t let what she says affect you.

* Agree and exaggerate

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If she says anything negative, agree to it, and exaggerate to a logical conclusion.

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What should you not do in a shit test?

* Validate yourself
* Stutter and be under-confident
* Walk away from the situation
* Quit permanently

How to Pass a Shit Test?

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### How do you deal with frequent shit tests?` `

Be bold, strong, confident, and most importantly, patient.

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### Do shit tests really work?` `

Apparently, yes. Women believe that shit tests can help them [find a potential match](https://roast.dating/blog/signs-woman-sexually-attracted), and hence they use it.

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### Are shit tests unavoidable?` `

Kind of. Almost every woman uses the shit test to determine whether you are the real deal for them or just a guy who wants to get in her pant(ie)s.

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Shit test 2023: Why do women shit test?

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you are not confident

Women like confident men. You can't get anywhere if you are not confident enough to approach women. Women always want men to start things first. If you don't have the self-confidence to ignite the fire, you can never reach the milestone of the first date.

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Lack of self esteem also leads to other problems like you end up saying wrong things. If you are confident but cannot show, it's still not going to help. It will help if you take ownership of your strengths, weakness, and actions. This will make you come across as confident to your girl. If you are not confident enough you likely won't be able to [ask a girl out](https://roast.dating/blog/ask-girl-out-tinder).

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What is a Shit Test? [Read more to find out why women use it.](https://roast.dating/blog/women-shit-test)

You are not confident

you dont know the art of flirting

Flirting is an art that can make things hot and spicy between you and your woman. Physical attraction can only open the gates for you; connecting with her and continuing to spice things up will decide how long your relationship status lasts.

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If you are thinking of using one-liners to impress her, think again. It's not usually about what you say, but how you say it. Body language also plays a vital role. Make eye contact, lean towards her, touch her hands when expressing something; all this and other body languages will bring you close to your girl.

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You shouldn't seem to be trying too much. Flirting is something that should come naturally. To bring that natural and healthy flirting, you need to understand what your potential partner is looking for and the situation. Only practice will make you perfect in this art.

You don't know the art of flirting

you are quitting halfway

If you are quitting a relationship just because a girl refuses to go on a date, saying she is busy, it's obvious you aren't getting a girl for you. Most girls would say no when you ask them out for the first time.

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If you get a no, try to ask her out maybe a week later. If it's a no again, try for the third time. You need to have a little patience. If you stop trying, it will simply end the game, and you will never get your first girlfriend.

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Most guys quit even before asking the girls. The reason is that they have got many rejections. But rejection is a part of life. No matter how good you are or how much you try, some women are never pleased. Hence, don't lose your chance thinking of those incidences.

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Obviously you need to play smart. Vary your approach, try to understand the reasons of the No, to no just hit your head on a wall again and again.

You are quitting halfway

you are not looking in the right place

Sometimes, the only problem is that you are busy looking for a girlfriend in your female friends. You won't always get someone from there. Hence, it is essential to start looking for different places to meet women and get hooked up with someone.

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The best place to start with would be online dating sites. Like you, there are also women out there looking for some serious relationship. Creating a profile on popular dating apps like Bumble or [Tinder](https://beyondmatching.com/blog/tinder-swipe-left-or-right) can get you on the radar of some girls.

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If you don't have the results you wish you had, start by getting an honest review of your profile with ROAST.

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If you are [still not getting dates on Tinder](https://beyondmatching.com/blog/tinder-no-dates) or Bumble, it might be because you are using the free version. Give it an upgrade and see the results.

You are not looking in the right place

you are just a nice guy

Many guys think that being nice in front of women can make them better than jerks they have dated in the past. But that's not always the case. Besides showing too much sweetness, being nice will also give out a sense that you might be too shy or unromantic, cutting off your chances of dating beautiful women.

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You can't always be the better person; you also have to become a bad boyfriend material at times. Becoming a blend of both will increase your chances of starting your dating journey.

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The thing is, being too much of a "nice guy" usually means you are too agreable. And behaving that way is suspicious: you don't stand your ground. It is therefore not attractive at all!

You are just a nice guy

you dont take care of your looks

If you want to find attractive women, you need to look dapper too. Although not everything, physical [attractiveness plays a vital role in initial attraction](https://scholarworks.sjsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=&httpsredir=1&article=8137&context=etd_theses). If you smell good, wear clean and ironed clothes, have a well-maintained body, they will all help you get your first girl.

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You need to invest in grooming yourself and getting into shape. Some things you can do are:

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* Get a gym membership
* Get a haircut
* Trim your beard
* Wear ironed clothes.
* Cut your nails!
* Use deodorants

You don't take care of your looks

you are desperate and you cant hide it

Understandably you will become desperate for a woman at one point, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. The problem occurs when you can't hide it. If you show that it's a big deal for you, your potential partner might not like it.

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The best solution to this is to have some self respect. Don't put girls on a pedestal that they start showing disrespect to you.

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Want to know how to keep a girl interested in a conversation? [Read more to find out](https://roast.dating/blog/things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush).

You are desperate, and you can't hide it

you are always friendzoned

Do girls friend zone you by saying that she has never thought about you like that? Well, that's because you never made her feel like that.

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When you spend time with your so-called friend whom you love, you need to create some sexual tension. While spending time with a girl, if you never touch her or get close to her, she's never gone feel the same way you do.

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When talking during your free time, look for that perfect moment and try to spark some romance between you two and see the magic.

You are always friend-zoned

you are not chasing the right women

Sometimes you'll be perfect for a boyfriend, but she'll reject you. It has nothing to do with you or her; it's solely because you are not her type.

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We all have a type. Hence, there are chances that you are the perfect guy, but she's into a bad boy with tattoos and piercings.

You are not chasing the right women

you cant trust or be trusted

Trust is vital for every relationship. If you don't trust your woman and keep questioning her, it will lead you nowhere. Similarly, if you keep dating multiple women and cheat on your girlfriend, there's no point in having a relationship.

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Be loyal and honest towards your woman and trust her to flourish your relationship and make it a long-lasting one.

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Don't know how to ask for a girl's phone number without sounding like a creep? [Here are a few tips](https://roast.dating/blog/tinder-phone-number).

You can't trust or be trusted

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Can't get a girlfriend in 2023? 10 reasons that may explain this

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